Loving is easy, but keeping a relationship is tough. A healthy relationship requires two mature people who are willing to keep the bond last. But what’s more important is maturity. So that you can make it work effortlessly.
Yes. you might have differences and small fights and that is quite natural, but that shouldn’t affect the relationship otherwise it might turn unhealthy or toxic.
- Keep constant communication
Regular communication is the key to bolster a proper relationship between the two people holding a bond. Even if things aren’t working for some reason or there are instances that you both are indulging in a difference of opinion, you can always communicate and make things work. Never ignore and expect things to work. It never goes that way. Constant communication strengthens your bond.
- Understand and respect your partner
More often the mistake we make is to try and visualize situations from our level of understanding. The moment we step into the shoes of the other person, we might experience a completely different perspective that makes us realize that the phase needs a different outlook.
Equally important is respecting your partner and their thoughts. Only then you can understand them as a person and how they think/feel/absorb the things. Respect comes even before love. Respecting them as a person, their needs, wishes, priorities requires another level of maturity.
- Adjust wherever possible/needed
If you know how to adjust with your partner, you will never experience any unhappiness or suffering in life and you will always have good relationships. Your energies to adjust have to be cultivated especially with those you do not get along with. These energies are already present with people you get along with. Inability to adjust is a weakness.
So make sure you have the strength to adjust your dimensions for people who are worth these efforts.
If you do not adjust then not only do you suffer but so does the other person.
- Never hide or tell lies
This is one of the most important factors in any relationship, especially when you have committed someone to live your entire life with them. Hiding facts or telling lies spoil the entire relationship. Once the trust is broken, they won’t be able to trust you again. You might not be ditching them, but hiding or lying will give a big kick to your love life. Don’t hide anything. Even if it’s difficult, to tell the truth, always prefer saying what is right and true to the facts. For that moment it could be bitter but it would avoid making the relationship bitter.
- Trust but don’t trust blindly
Trust is the faith you have in someone that they will always remain loyal to you and love you. It is the building block for any relationship. Without which the foundation will always remain shaky. Without trust, each moment in your life becomes a nightmare. It is difficult for relationships to thrive. In fact, a relationship without trust is simply chaotic.
But what also needs to be kept in mind is that don’t allow anybody to take undue advantage of your trust. Don’t trust blindly. Always ensure that whoever you are trusting is worthy of the amount of faith you have on them. Otherwise, all you’ll be left is a broken heart and endless pain.
- Convey what’s bothering
Keeping worries to yourself only grooms them to be bigger. If you are sharing a bond, you also ought to share what’s going in your head. If it’s related to them or to anything else, always try to be transparent with your partner so that they can understand what’s hampering you and maybe help you to relieve that pain. A love relationship goes through ups and downs. But what’s positive here is that you don’t have to go through it alone. You don’t have to struggle in silence. Share and lessen the negatives.
- Express your love and care
Don’t think that they know already how much you love and care for them. Expressing it is equally important as possessing it. Once you know how to share what we feel and love them correctly, there’s no end. Give them care and understand the power of love you can make them feel just by expressing it.
When you love someone deeply, it happens automatically. You don’t have to put an extra effort to make your heart pour out the emotions it is feeling. But in case you are unable to do that, identify a love language through which you can express.
These days we are seeing so many people drifting apart. Breakups and divorce have become so common that many people have forgotten what love truly is. It is not that difficult to keep a relationship healthy and going as long as both of them want to keep it going.
